‘We miss our wartorn nation, however London has welcomed us’: 4 Ukrainians on their new lives within the UK

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A former Burberry exec who fled missiles and landmines for a safer life in Westminster together with her son. A younger artist who left her household in Kyiv to start out a brand new life in Brixton. A lecturer from Lviv now working in Gail’s and her native GP surgical procedure in Kentish City.

These are simply among the 100,000 Ukrainians who’ve fled the warfare in current months and are actually settling into new lives with host households within the UK.

From discovering jobs and colleges to the challenges of adapting to a brand new tradition, right here 4 girls residing in London inform their sincere tales about transferring to the capital.

Ukrainians could be closed with their feelings — our British hosts have helped my son and I to open up

Maria Yarova, 38, a former Burberry exec from Kyiv now residing in Westminster

Former Burberry exec Maria Yarova, 38, begins a brand new life in London together with her son Alex, 13

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Once I inform the story of the previous few months, I nonetheless can’t consider it’s my life. My son Alex, 13, and I lived in a flat in central Kyiv, simply behind an atomic plant that’s been the goal of a number of missiles since we left. A baby died there in a strike simply a few weeks in the past. Even when a state of warfare was declared, we didn’t consider it. It’s the twenty first century and we’re peaceable individuals, warfare nonetheless felt like a menace.

However at 6am on twenty fourth February, some household associates known as to say the town was being attacked. We packed some garments and paperwork and fled to our second residence, simply 30km away in a small village. Town was a large number, individuals have been operating round shopping for meals, the roads have been at a standstill, everybody was attempting to go away.

Once we acquired there, it turned apparent that we’d fled to someplace extra harmful than the place we’d been earlier than. The military was there and there have been missiles going off close by. We stayed there for every week, then determined to threat it and go away, regardless of a lot of landmines close by was price it. I instructed my son what to do if he discovered himself alone – to take his passport, keep near the bottom and get as distant as potential – and noticed how frightened he was. It was essentially the most troublesome factor I’ve ever needed to do.

We stayed with some associates in one other metropolis for 2 days, then stayed with some extra associates within the Lviv area. At this level I’d virtually stopped sleeping. The sirens went off so frequently and I used to be completely apprehensive about my son.

Maria Maria Yarova and her son Alex (proper), with their British host household, the Gallaghers

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For Alex’s sake I made a decision we should always go away. I knew the English language and noticed a lot of supportive Fb posts from individuals within the UK. I discovered a pleasant put up from a household of 5 in London known as the Gallaghers: Adam, a lawyer; Angela, a college governor; and their three youngsters Sophia, 15, Alban, 12, and Natalie, 9. They seemed smiling and pleased in pictures and Alban was the same age to my son. I may image us residing with them. I couldn’t consider it once they mentioned the room was nonetheless obtainable. They wrote to me every single day after that, serving to with paperwork.

We obtained our visas three weeks later and all 5 of the Gallaghers met us on the airport, waving flags and welcoming us. Again on the flat, that they had balloons and a cake embellished with Ukrainian colors and cooked us an exquisite pasta bolognese for our first dinner. In our rooms they’d laid out every little thing we would have liked and extra: garments, meals, toiletries, flowers.

Since then they’ve helped us to get to know the British tradition, taking us to see a Saracens rugby recreation, and shocking us with theatre tickets and a ship tour on the Thames. It was Alex’s birthday quickly after we arrived and all 5 of them gave him a gift.

Angela has been significantly wonderful with Alex, contacting colleges, doing his homework with him, serving to him put together for interviews at numerous London colleges providing locations to refugees. I’ll always remember the look on his face when he discovered he’d acquired a bursary place to start out at Whitgift College in September. He was in love with the college and its individuals the second we walked in – he couldn’t consider how respectfully the kids have been handled there. It’s at all times been his dream to review and turn out to be a neighborhood like that. We’re so grateful to the headmaster and head of admissions for giving Alex an opportunity. Assembly such great and supportive individuals has helped massively with our restoration.

Yarova says opening up about their emotions has helped her and her son to really feel higher after the warfare

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It’s not all been straightforward, after all. I fear about overstaying our welcome with the Gallaghers – they’ve been sharing their meals with us since day one, which has helped us massively, however they solely began receiving month-to-month funds for internet hosting us final month and instantly selected to switch that cash to us as a substitute. We have been so touched. Alex and I’ve been recieving £200 a month every in common credit score however I wish to work and earn my very own cash, so I used to be relieved after I was lastly invited to start out a paid internship at Christian Dior’s head workplace final week. I hope that at some point we’ll be capable to afford to lease our personal place and go away the Gallaghers to stay their lives.

The cultural variations have been troublesome, too. We Ukrainians are likely to preserve our feelings inside – we don’t at all times present it once we’re pleased and grateful and we don’t wish to burden individuals with the ache of what we’ve been by, however British tradition is to be way more open and communicative so typically our closed feelings can in all probability make us come throughout as impolite. Staying with the Gallaghers has helped us, although. Alex and I are each getting higher at expressing ourselves – I can see the adjustments in each of us every single day.

My predominant ask is for the British individuals to not decide us. We could be getting higher at opening up however I additionally perceive that I’m removed from again to my regular self. I’m nonetheless sleeping badly, nonetheless internalising a lot of my feelings and nonetheless getting used to the tradition. Most Ukrainians I communicate to say the identical.

My predominant coping mechanism has been attempting to let go. I’ve at all times been a planner however the warfare has proven me how rapidly every little thing could be taken from you; your own home, your automotive, your property. Apparently missiles have hit the 14th flooring of our condominium block in Kyiv and our flat is on the ninth flooring, so I’ve needed to make an lively resolution to not get pressured about the home or I’d endure every single day and I don’t suppose I’d survive.

What all of this has taught me is that even once you lose all of your possessions, training can by no means be taken from you, so you may by no means lose every little thing. So my focus now could be on giving Alex the perfect training potential, so he can construct his future and hopefully at some point assist to rebuild his nation. We are going to at all times be Ukrainian. Hopefully at some point can take our information residence.

I wish to be a survivor, not a sufferer — transferring to London seems like a silver lining

Viktoria Zavhorodnia, 31, a style exec from Kyiv now residing in Brixton

Viktoria Zavhorodnia, 31, is now residing with a household in Brixton

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Earlier than the warfare, I used to be residing in a suburb of Kyiv and dealing for Ukrainian Trend Week. I’d turned 30 final 12 months and had at all times had a dream of changing into a musician, so purchased myself a piano, discovered a instructor and began studying music final winter.

Six months later the warfare occurred and I had to surrender that dream. I considered staying in Kyiv, however I couldn’t do it. It felt like my life there didn’t belong to me anymore. If you keep in a metropolis that’s being bombed each minute, you don’t know which minute is your final.

A buddy and I left Kyiv two days after the warfare began. First we went to Lviv, then Poland, then France. Then when a buddy in London texted me concerning the Properties for Ukraine scheme I jumped on the probability. It had at all times been my dream to return to London. I’m in love with its historical past, its tradition, its language. I by no means thought I’d have the prospect to maneuver there, so it felt like a small, surreal silver lining of the warfare. It confirmed that even within the darkest time in your life you may nonetheless have the brightest moments.

A month later, in mid-April, I acquired my visa and took the bus to London from Paris. It was my fourth transfer because the warfare so it was onerous and traumatic to adapt at first. However time heals. I moved in with my host household – Nadia, Tom and their daughter Fernanda – in Brixton six weeks in the past they usually’ve made me really feel a part of the household. Tom’s mother and father have been refugees from Germany, so he understands what I’m going by and that I would like my private area.

Viktoria Zavhorodnia says she loves London’s climate, meals and tradition

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By whole luck, Nadia and Tom occur to have a synthesiser of their residence, so I can apply the piano. I’ve been practicicing Bach and attempting to be taught Bohemian Rhapsody. I’ve additionally been portray, presenting my work at charity occasions for Ukraine. Artwork has made me really feel re-energised and helped me to grasp that you simply can’t run from your self, even once you’re operating from warfare. I’d love to start out promoting my artwork, do some images or work in a music store to start out incomes some cash.

Summer time in Kyiv could be like a sauna however right here the climate is ideal – it’s not too sizzling, too chilly or too wet. The air feels contemporary. I like that even at evening you will get a bus in London, and I additionally love the meals; the contemporary salmon they promote at Brixton Market; British traditions like Toad within the Gap. I can’t wait to cook dinner my first Christmas pudding.

I additionally love the British individuals. Possibly it’s the truth that persons are form and I perceive the language. But when I am going to some other European nation I at all times really feel like a foreigner, however right here I really feel equal and the identical. I’m fortunate I communicate good English so I’m not taken with becoming a member of these teams for Ukrainian refugees, I wish to make associates my very own manner and make my very own circle.

Now, the principle problem the psychological one in my head. I’ve at all times been a versatile individual however fleeing the warfare is like being a kitten taken from its field and thrown to the road. Sure the road is marvellous, but it surely’s nonetheless the road. I miss my mother and father and brother again in Kyiv, however I do know the warfare isn’t without end. In the end it can finish and I’ll return to my mother and father, hopefully extra developed as an individual. Coming to the UK has proved to me that this world is so large and there are such a lot of good individuals, in addition to filthy and horrible ones. I don’t wish to be a sufferer right here, I wish to be a survivor.

My colleagues at Gail’s Bakery ask concerning the warfare — my mom is optimistic however I believe it’s removed from over

Bohdana Kryviak, 41, a medical lecturer from Lviv residing in Kentish City

Bohdana Kryviak on a day trip in London

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Befor the warfare, I used to be a senior lecturer in Latin medical terminology in Lviv. I used to be staying with my mum and brother 35km exterior Lviv, not removed from the Polish border, when my mum woke us up with the phrases: “Kids, the warfare has began”. We heard that Kyiv was being bombed and began calling our kinfolk there, checking that they have been OK.

My daughter Anastasia, 23, and her boyfriend each labored on the college in Lviv – he’s British, in order that they left for the UK three days after the warfare began. I relaxed as quickly as she left, realizing she was secure.

The actual worry kicked in a couple of days later, when the Russians began bombing a navy base not removed from my mum’s city. We’d get up to the sound of bombs and flashes within the sky and I couldn’t even escape after I was asleep, the bombs have been in my goals. From that second it began to really feel actual.

It wasn’t my plan to maneuver to the UK in the beginning. My sister lives within the USA so I considered transferring there, however my daughter was within the UK and it was nearer than America. A British household I’d met when dropping my daughter on the Polish border helped me to discover a host household and fortunately the Properties for Ukraine course of wasn’t too troublesome for me. I stuffed within the paperwork, waited for 3 weeks, then travelled to London a couple of days after celebrating Easter in Ukraine.

Bohdana and her daughter with their host Nikki and her son Joe

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Leaving my mum and brother was emotional – I felt caught within the center, between them and my daughter. However my host household – Nikki and Tom, and their sons Joe, 24, and Zack, 21 – picked me up from the airport, together with my daughter, and helped me to really feel snug. Nikki is a paediatric physiotherapist and Tom is a medical neurophysiologist, so we had a medical hyperlink, which was good.

Nikki’s husband Tom cooked us a scrumptious lasagne on our first evening collectively they usually gave me my very own bed room. Since then they’ve surrounded me with care and a spotlight, doing each little bit of my paperwork with me and taking me Ukrainian occasions and live shows; to their sons’ ballet performances; to the native parks and Hampstead Ponds.

The Kentish City space feels very snug and secure. I’ve met another Ukrainian girls and Nikki has launched me to her associates. I’ve been cooking them Ukrainian dishes, resembling stuffed dumplings known as Varenyky. My daughter is now residing and dealing in Studying however usually joins me right here in London. She’s the identical age as my hosts’ son Joe, who comes again to go to too.

I now have an administrative job at a GP apply and have a part-time job at Gail’s Bakery, who’ve been very proactive in hiring Ukrainian refugees because the warfare began. I get pleasure from each jobs simply as a lot as my outdated one again in Ukraine and it’s been an excellent probability to achieve expertise and contribute to the brand new society I’m residing in, though chatting with sufferers and clients could be traumatic as a result of they’ve totally different pronounciations for issues and younger individuals use quite a lot of slang I’m not conversant in. However my colleagues have been form, asking about my household and the warfare again at residence.

I communicate to my mum again in Ukraine on a regular basis. She’s busy working as a psychologist and doesn’t have time to take a seat round studying the information very a lot, so she’s feeling optimistic concerning the warfare. She tells us it will likely be high-quality, that she’s residing a comparatively regular life and that she doesn’t wish to go away. I’m not as optimistic. I’m anticipating extra assaults and sadly I don’t suppose the warfare is prone to finish anytime quickly.

I’m attempting to not make any plans, however I miss my household and associates and the Ukrainian language. I simply wish to learn an excellent quaint Ukrainian e-book! On the identical time I do know I’m fortunate. For now I’m specializing in enhancing my English and attempting to stay day-by-day. I hope my mom is correct.

Kids are adaptable, my little ones don’t communicate a lot English however they’ve settled into London life already

Alona Domdska, 35, a web-based youngsters’s retailer proprietor from Kyiv, now residing in Hampstead

Alona Domdska and her household exterior the Pure Historical past Museum in Kensington

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When the bombs began going off close to our residence close to Kyiv, I instructed my youngsters it was simply planes flying overhead. I needed to keep robust for them — they’re solely seven, 5 and one in order that they’re too younger to grasp the warfare. Ten days after the warfare began, my husband and I made a decision to go away Ukraine so we simply instructed them we have been happening a journey.

That journey lasted 5 days: we travelled by Hungary into Romania, the place we spent two days, then onto Poland. We spent two months there: the financial institution the place my husband Maxsem works put us up in a lodge, then we moved right into a flat with another Ukrainian households.

There in Poland we confronted the troublesome alternative of the place to maneuver. One among my college associates, my son’s godmother Angelina, already lived in London, so we determined to observe her and he or she helped us onto the Properties for Ukraine programme. She then helped to attach us with our host household, legal professionals Sarah and Patrick of their forties and their youngsters Ben, 12, and Annabelle, 9.

We moved into their residence in Hampstead close to Barnet a couple of weeks later and have a flooring to ourselves: two bedrooms and a toilet. They met us on the airport and it felt good to see that somebody had considered us and was attempting to make our life higher. They’ve been so form and welcoming all through, taking the kids swimming, biking and enjoying soccer, and serving to us with paperwork and discovering colleges and nurseries. Even the neighbours have been wonderful, bringing us desserts, toys and kids’s clothes and welcoming us round to tea.

Alona Domdska

/ Alona Domdska

The primary weeks have been onerous although: discovering colleges and nurseries and looking for a job. My husband hasn’t been capable of finding a banking job but so he’s nonetheless having to journey between London and Kyiv, and the kids have been put into totally different colleges at first so the college run was an actual exercise, operating arounud with the pushchair. My youngest is at present in nursery at some point every week and can be beginning 5 days every week in September, so now my focus is to try to discover a job and enhance my English.

That’s been onerous although, too. I haven’t been in a position to get by to Barnet Council for 2 months now and I would like their assist with issues like our promised £200 a month per individual from the federal government, sim playing cards and English classes. Each time I am going to the council workplaces they offer me a unique excuse: come again one other day, we have to see you and your youngsters collectively, different causes. It’s left me feeling very disillusioned and unhappy.

Fortunately, the kids have tailored extra simply than we have now. It’s straightforward once you’re that younger. They’ve made new associates, play video games with different British youngsters and are being invited to birthday events. They’ve some Ukrainian associates close by however solely British associates at college, however they get on with it as a result of youngsters are good at enjoying.

Total, we really feel very welcomed by the British public, however our communications with the Authorities and council have been much less optimistic. We love the realm, London’s parks are stunning and I’ve made associates due to some nice programmes for Ukrainians. We hope to remain within the UK, however we do want extra assist.


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